؟How can I improve my self esteem

There are many things you can do to improve your self esteem and here are a few ideas to get you started.
Focus on your achievements - if you take time to think you will realise that you have achieved so many things in your life. It doesn't matter what these achievements are only that they are important to you. List them and remember what they meant to you. It doesn't matter what you think about your life at present if you are honest with yourself you will make a long list and that will make you feel good. Every small thing you are proud of should be added to your list. The fact that you are focusing on positives will also help you to increase your level of self esteem.
Make plans for the future - following from above the next thing to do is stop wasting time and procrastinating get planning! What would you like to do but felt you
Couldn't? Time to decide for yourself that you will do it now! Make a list of things you want to do or want to change and start thinking about how to make a start. Then take a breath and just begin. you won't look back!
What you like about yourself - if you have low self esteem you probably keep reflecting on the things you don't like about yourself but if you reverse this thinking it is much more helpful. What do your friends like about you? have you ever asked them? After you have listed all the things you like about yourself then the negative things seem smaller and less harmful.
Be trust about your self .Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. • Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately. • Placing confidence in others so that they will be supportive and reinforcing of you, even if you let down your "strong'' mask and show your weaknesses. • Assuming that others will not intentionally hurt or abuse you if you should make an error or a mistake. • The inner sense of acceptance you have of others with whom you are able to share secrets, knowing they are safe. • The sense that things are fine; that nothing can disrupt the bond between you and the other. • The ability to let others into your life so that you and they can create a relationship built on an understanding of mutual respect, caring, and concern to assist one another in growing and maturing independently.
Accept yourself and who you are. And there are many steps can improve your self esteem.

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Happy People

The most important trait common to happy people

is positive self-esteem. Studies have found that happy

people like themselves and believe themselves to be

smarter, healthier, and more sociable than the average

person. They are also more optimistic, extroverted, and

tend to have a more realistic perspective regarding negative

experiences. They feel like they are in control of their lives.
Another important trait of happy people is their social involvement with others. Close relationships with supportive friends and family, intimacy within marriage, and an interest in deeply caring and loving relationships are a priority in the pursuit of happiness.
Happy people are good at setting long-term goals at work and breaking them down into achievable daily accomplishments. They find work to be a positive experience because they put themselves into work situations where they feel challenged and engaged, without feeling overwhelmed.
Research proves that people active in religious organizations are happier, because they cope better with various life experiences and are less vulnerable to substance abuse and suicide.
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Sadness is not Depression

We all feel sad sometimes. Sadness is a normal emotion that can make life more interesting. Much art and poetry is inspired by sadness and melancholy. Sadness almost always accompanies loss. When we say goodbye to a loved one we usually feel sad. The sadness is even deeper if a close relationship has ended or a loved one has died.
Sadness also helps us appreciate happiness. When our mood eventually changes from sadness toward happiness the sense of contrast add to the enjoyment of the mood.
Here are some ways to experience normal sadness in a healthy way and to allow this emotion to enrich your life:
· If you are feeling sad, plan a sadness day. Plan a day or evening just to be alone, listen to the music to observe your thoughts and feelings. Planning time to be unhappy can be actually felt well. It can help you ultimately move into a happier mood.
· Think about the context of the sad feelings. Are they related to a loss or an unhappy event? It's usually not as simple as discovering the "cause" of the sadness, but it may be possible to understand factors involved.
· Sadness can result from a change that you didn't expect, or it can signal the need for a change in your life. Change is usually stressful, but it is necessary for growth. There are many steps that you can be good if you follow it

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